Three Keys to Listening Well

Listening is loving. It is food for the soul and nourishment for relationships. Being heard and understood deeply has a powerful effect, enabling us to feel safe, cared for, loved, and empowered. However, listening well can be difficult.  This is becoming even more of a challenge in today’s society where a million distractions lay atContinue reading “Three Keys to Listening Well”

Gratitude: A Poem

Waking up from a dream, I discover myself laying beneath a tree. It is lovely, tall, green. It asks for nothing besides this plot of land: a place to grow and be. The wind disturbs the branches, limbs dance above my head. I ponder, wondering what sight I’d see here if thunder storms rolled in.Continue reading “Gratitude: A Poem”

On Feeling Stuck & How Therapy Helps

In my time meeting with new clients, I often hear some variation of this shared: “I don’t know…I just feel stuck.” This experience of feeling stuck leads many people to consider and potentially try therapy.  I have a hunch that at some point most people find themselves in such a place… But what does itContinue reading “On Feeling Stuck & How Therapy Helps”

Acceptance & Empowerment: When Change Happens Deeply

“The curious paradox is that when I accept myself just as I am, then I can change.”  – Carl Rogers, On Becoming a Person Upon hearing the quote above, some individuals question psychotherapist, Carl Rogers’s message. You may similarly wonder, “How does that work?” The idea of Acceptance preceding Change goes against much of theContinue reading “Acceptance & Empowerment: When Change Happens Deeply”

Healing & Uniting in Relationship: Three Keys to Constructive Communication

“Communication leads to community, that is, to understanding, intimacy and mutual valuing.” ~ Rollo May (late psychologist/psychotherapist) Communication is key in not only healing from wounds in relationship but also – as Rollo May states (above) – it is essential in truly understanding another person, being understood yourself, and cultivating intimacy and mutual respect together.Continue reading “Healing & Uniting in Relationship: Three Keys to Constructive Communication”

Noticing Vs. Judging Your Feelings [ A More Compassionate Way ]

“But feelings can’t be ignored, no matter how unjust or ungrateful they may seem.” ~ Ann Frank I have a paper tucked away in my office drawer that I like to pull out every once in a while with clients. On it you’ll find a list of several dozen “Feeling Words” – each listed underContinue reading “Noticing Vs. Judging Your Feelings [ A More Compassionate Way ]”

Meeting as Equals: The Value of Person-Centered Therapy

In an earlier post, I discussed the counseling style I adhere to: person-centered therapy. Today, I’d like to share a short video clip from an interview with the founder of person-centered therapy, the late Carl Rogers.  To me, his thoughts at minute 1:20 & 3:00 highlight the essence of this particular psychotherapy style. “I think thatContinue reading “Meeting as Equals: The Value of Person-Centered Therapy”

Why Counselors Welcome Silence in Session

I have found that people often hold one of two fears about counselors: (1) Counselors exist to tell me what to do and what not to do. (In essence, the belief that counselors exist as advice-givers i.e., An extension of your parent, spouse, or boss.) (2) Counselors just sit in silence, nodding, and writing notesContinue reading “Why Counselors Welcome Silence in Session”

Daring Greatly [by Brené Brown] Book Review: Wholehearted Living Vs. “Culture of Scarcity”

In the month of February, I had the pleasure of reading Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, & Parent, by talented writer & research professor, Brené Brown.  I consider Daring Greatly to be a fantastic – and important read for anyone who has felt or currently feels stunted – perhaps relationally, professionally,Continue reading “Daring Greatly [by Brené Brown] Book Review: Wholehearted Living Vs. “Culture of Scarcity””