Noticing Vs. Judging Your Feelings [ A More Compassionate Way ]

“But feelings can’t be ignored, no matter how unjust or ungrateful they may seem.” ~ Ann Frank I have a paper tucked away in my office drawer that I like to pull out every once in a while with clients. On it you’ll find a list of several dozen “Feeling Words” – each listed underContinue reading “Noticing Vs. Judging Your Feelings [ A More Compassionate Way ]”

The Good News of Being “Messy”

“People are just as wonderful as sunsets if you let them be. When I look at a sunset, I don’t find myself saying, ‘Soften the orange a bit on the right hand corner.’ I don’t try to control a sunset. I watch with awe as it unfolds.”  ~ Carl Rogers (Psychotherapist) Break-throughs, as most therapistContinue reading “The Good News of Being “Messy””

Recognizing Yourself as a Friend

I love this quote (left) by Elizabeth Gilbert, an award-winning fiction and non-fiction writer.  I believe it to be an often-dismissed yet critically important reminder. A few months ago I wrote a blog post about accepting and loving oneself, entitled: Being Kind To Yourself [ Shaking Off Comparison].  In it, I discussed the common struggle of negative self-talkContinue reading “Recognizing Yourself as a Friend”

Being Kind to Yourself [ Shaking off Comparison ]

Be Kind to Yourself. Sometimes the simplest of words ring the truest. I was told this by a therapist once, and well, it stuck. Self-Talk:  a person’s internal dialogue, which can be positive and motivational or negative and demotivating. In other, less technical and fancy words, self-talk includes all the mess we tell ourselves. This includes theContinue reading “Being Kind to Yourself [ Shaking off Comparison ]”